If you’re gonna set goals for 2025

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If you’re gonna set goals for 2025, please categorise them into needs and wants. Here’s why🧵

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I am assuming that for some cases, not all, these words have equal values in our brain: goals = dreams = desires = wants = needs

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From my failures, I’ve learned that whenever I equated my wants with our needs, I began to lose my peace of mind every time I failed to fulfill them

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Whenever a desire transforms into a need, our survival instincts kick in, and let me tell you, they’re incredibly challenging to leverage. I felt like the pain of a bleeding wound every time I miss an opportunity to fulfil a desire. That’s when insecurities begin to take birth

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Such insecurities can fuel wonders, transformations, and make the impossible possible. The brain will go to great lengths to satisfy these insecurities. However, I believe that to harness these insecurities effectively, we need to strike a balance between satisfaction and dissatisfaction

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Since many aspects are beyond our control, I often find myself dissatisfied with myself. This dissatisfaction eventually becomes a hardwiring in our brains, leading us to derive satisfaction from our desires

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There many neurotransmitters that influence our choices and behaviour. dopamine motivates us to fulfil our desires and serotonin is the reward we get once we achieve the expected or better outcome. If we don’t then we are left with craving and that disturbs our peace of mind. It starts to function as 0 or 1. No reason, support, logic is accepted but only and only serotonin. You may re-consider why we depend on drugs

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I used to justify my default approach with a reason: this dissatisfaction is the necessary input to work hard and fulfil my desires. An extra ordinary desire may require going against the odds and such an intense input of insecurity might help do that but I learned it was absolutely necessary to have clarity about which desires I can afford to pay the price for and which ones I can’t

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You may notice that every desire you already have in your mind holds a certain weightage at different times. Everyone desires to be rich, but after basic financial survival, only a few consider this desire to be a necessity. Everybody desires to be fit, but unless some shit happens only a few consider this desire to be a need

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The desire for social approval may hold a higher weightage than becoming rich. Once I started observing, I found so many. No wonder why so much dissatisfaction

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The ideal needs are to fulfill our energy requirements, ensure our safety and/or reproduction. Every desire that doesn’t fulfill these needs isn’t a need and can be satisfied without becoming one

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It may require considerable patience, perseverance, and discomfort to unravel our neural pathways, but anyone can harness neuroplasticity to attain the optimal state. However, this might not even be the ultimate objective. Practically, net +ve satisfaction seems to be the aim

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Having maximum peace of mind can play a significant advantage. Regardless of the outcomes of our efforts, we do not derive satisfaction from them. Our ability to observe critically, solve problems, and experience life can be amplified exponentially

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The limbic system (animal brain) is relaxed, allowing the logical brain to focus on other matters. This relaxation also channels more energy into the logical brain, resulting in increased output and energy

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"Desire is a contract that you make with yourself to be unhappy until you get what you want" - @naval

Desire boundlessly, but carefully choose which desires you upgrade to needs. The unhappiness contract only applies to needs, not wants

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Wishing you a satisfying 2025 ✌️